A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"
The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:
"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.
Mermaids do not exist.
But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?
Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.
At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.
Just wanted to share this beautiful article to inspire us all...:)
20 WAYS TO LOVE YOUR BODY!! Compiled by Margo Maine, Ph.D.
1. Think of your body as the vehicle to your dreams. Honor it. Respect it. Fuel it.
2. Create a list of all the things your body lets you do. Read it and add to it often.
3. Become aware of what your body can do each day. Remember it is the instrument of your life, not just an ornament.
4. Create a list of people you admire: people who have contributed to your life, your community, or the world. Consider whether their appearance was important to their success and accomplishments.
5. Walk with your head held high, supported by pride and confidence in yourself as a person.
6. Don’t let your weight or shape keep you from activities that you enjoy.
7. Wear comfortable clothes that you like, that express your personal style, and that feel good to your body.
8. Count your blessings, not your blemishes.
9. Think about all the things you could accomplish with the time and energy you currently spend worrying about your body and appearance. Try one!
10. Be your body’s friend and supporter, not its enemy.
11. Consider this: your skin replaces itself once a month, your stomach lining every five days, your liver every six weeks, and your skeleton every three months. Your body is extraordinary--begin to respect and appreciate it.
12. Every morning when you wake up, thank your body for resting and rejuvenating itself so you can enjoy the day.
13. Every evening when you go to bed, tell your body how much you appreciate what it has allowed you to do throughout the day.
14. Find a method of exercise that you enjoy and do it regularly. Don’t exercise to lose weight or to fight your body. Do it to make your body healthy and strong and because it makes you feel good. Exercise for the Three F’s: Fun, Fitness, and Friendship.
15. Think back to a time in your life when you felt good about your body. Tell yourself you can feel like that again, even in this body at this age.
16. Keep a list of 10 positive things about yourself--without mentioning your appearance. Add to it!
17. Put a sign on each of your mirrors saying, “I’m beautiful inside and out.”
18. Choose to find the beauty in the world and in yourself.
19. Start saying to yourself, “Life is too short to waste my time hating my body this way.”
20. Eat when you are hungry. Rest when you are tired. Surround yourself with people that remind you of your inner strength and beauty.
Don’t Weigh Your Self-Esteem. It’s What’s Inside That Counts!
Being a plus size is hard in the world were skinny bodies rules. Even the word "fat" feels like a knife killing your self esteem. In my experience being called fat is painful as being called ugly, bitch, dumb. It is something that you didn't want to be. But as the time goes by, I have learned to accept my body as the whole world started to accept the "fat" word. But honestly, "fat" word sometimes can still make me feel uncomfortable so I often used the word voluptuous, plus size or fiercely real women:)
True Beauty Starts from within. Nothing in this world can make you feel beautiful but your own thoughts and self esteem. You are what you are and you must love it! Whatever makes you feel good and beautiful inside will come through on the outside.
Step1
Never, ever loose your self-esteem and believe that you are beautiful now. But you don't have to be like those people who became "too defensive and tough" if you know what I mean. Healthy self-esteem is the key.It only means that you're confident in your positive qualities overall, but recognize your flaw as well.
Step 2
Wear clothes that fit your well. Wearing clothes that is too small will only highlight your flab and will only make you feel uncomfortable. Wearing clothes that is too big will only make you look bigger and feel older. Its not about the size, its about the shape, balance and proper proportion. I love to wear clothes that the length is above the knee to show my legs or clothes that has deeper neckline to draw attention to my chest instead of my stomach. You just need to find clothes that fits your well and make you feel comfortable and confident.
Step3
Every girl needs to be feel like a princess, even for just a day. So don't forget to pamper your self. Get your hair done, your nails done and have a massage once in a while. Buy new clothes or make-up( which I often do). You can do this at home if salon is too expensive for you. I often asked my hubby for a massage and I feel good and relax afterwards. Pampering yourself can make you feel better and as a result, look more beautiful.
Beauty is how you feel inside, and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical.
-- Sophia Loren
Hello fabs! Just wanted to post something to inspire everyone specially my fabulous fat and fab readers:)
I was inspired by the song Born this way. Yes, we are born this way ...
I'm beautiful in my way
'Cause God makes no mistakes
I'm on the right track baby
I was born this way
Don't hide yourself in regret
Just love yourself and you're set
I'm on the right track baby
I was born this way
Don't be a drag, just be a queen
Whether you're broke or evergreen
You're black, white, beige, chola descent
You're lebanese, you're orient
Whether life's disabilities
Left you outcast, bullied, or teased
Rejoice and love yourself today
'Cause baby you were born this way
No matter gay, straight, or bi,
Lesbian, transgendered life
I'm on the right track baby
I was born to survive
No matter black, white or beige
Chola or orient made
I'm on the right track baby
I was born to be brave
I have recently receiving few negative comments about my blog, especially about the fact that I am inspiring all the big girls out there to be beautiful just the way they are. Well, to tell you the truth before I started doing this blog, I often get easily upset with negative comments. They could make me feel shameful that I wanted to cuddle in the corner and hug myself. I have also encountered negative comment about my body when I was younger, even now. I have experienced being called fat, pig etc. BUT at least, they didn't call me UGLY! Hahaha! I used to feel ashamed when I was with skinny co-workers feeling like the guys only noticed them so I just stayed in a corner saying nothing which was totally WRONG mind you. The truth is, guys wanted to talk to us its just that we are trying to avoid any conversation with them because we are lacking of self confidence! Remember, Let you personality shine!All you need is your brains and your personality . Let them see that you are smart, witty and fabulous! Be confident with your own skin! Think you are beautiful and your will be. Of course, negativity will always be there but DON'T waste your time on shallow people and don't let their negativity affect you. I know,sometimes it will hurt but all you have to do is to ignore them. Never let anyone steal your joy.Life is too precious to waste time on negative people.
Being healthy(plus size) is not a negative thing.We just have to accept the fact that we can never be skinny and we are happy just the way we are. But, we can also have a healthy lifestyle. I am the first one to admit that I am lazy in terms of exercising :( but I'm trying. I am planning to invest in an exercise machine like a treadmill or something because I don't have the time to go to the gym. I will exercise not because of beauty but because of wellness.
As i have mentioned, I have received negative comments regarding this blog. Those comments now inspires me to be more positive and to prove them all wrong!That despite being a plus size, we can still be beautiful, fabulous, and be everything that we wanted to be! I'm not saying that we should neglect our health. I'm just saying that fat can also have much fun just like everyone else. Everybody can have fun whatever your size and color is! As long as you love your self and believe in your self!
Yes my dear readers, we can be whatever we wanted to be.
Its in your hands
Want some proofs?
Here it is....
Ok, I wanted to be a shy, girl next door....
Or a hot bombshell...
I can be a fabulous geek...
or the ultimate rocker chic!!!
LOL, as you can see its my favorite look.
See? We can be whatever we want..
Just wanna share again a nice song from Cristina Aguillera
